The Mother at Home John S C Abbott 9781481247108 Books
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First published in 1833, The Mother at Home was particularly written for the stay-at-home-mom. The fact that it's still in print testifies to the fact that so many mothers have found it to be of help to them and recommended it to others. It's so full of little gems that, to glean all, readers could read it more than once over the years. It offers guidance through successful parenting practices, and is full of practical advice for running a successful home, having good children, and avoiding common parenting mistakes. Refreshingly, it was written before parents were afraid to discipline their children, and it's a helpful encouragement for Moms not to be slack in their important job since slackness only heaps up more trouble in the years to come. This book is a fantastic aid in reflection and course adjustments for the mother of young children. Its far more empowering than some of the books written for women today, which encourage self exploration, and child-led parenting.
The Mother at Home John S C Abbott 9781481247108 Books
I previously purchased this book by a different publisher and really liked it although it was written in 1833 it contained a lot of wisdom on discipline. However, this book had an additional chapter included which was not in the copy I formerly had. I thought that interesting, and before giving it as a gift decided I should take the time to read it. I'm so glad I did as the author suggests shutting a disobedient child in a dark closet as a means of punishment. I quote, "He had never been shut up in the dark as a punishment, because with very young children the consequences of such a measure are sometimes hazardous; but it was known that in this case the child was not afraid; and I desired to know the effect of it, in connection with the religious considerations. The following experiment was tried; the conversation is here precisely as it occured. Mother: 'I am sorry you are so naughty. I must put you into a dark closet, where nobody can see you.'" The mother proceeds to shut the child in the closet until he is willing to submit to her authority...he shares that the result of this experiment is successful in acheiving the desired result.Product details
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The Mother at Home John S C Abbott 9781481247108 Books Reviews
What a wonderfully encouraging book. I want to buy tons of copies and give them away to all the moms - and future moms - that I can!
I find it so funny that the behaviors of children that Mr. Abbott addressed more than a hundred and fifty years ago are the same today ) Because of the date of writing (1833) I expected, initially, that the author would suggest discipline that would be more extreme than what our culture/church teaches today but, remarkably, his writing quite clearly expresses a strong desire for mothers to press in to capturing their children's hearts in order to lead them gently and firmly to Christ.
A wonderfully refreshing - and timeless - book for moms.
This is a book to be read and re-read.
I will allow, as another person mentioned, that in places the author advocates what at first seems harsh to our modern notions of child raising. But, the author also instructs, "Guard against too much severity. By pursuing a steady course of efficient government, severity will very seldom be found necessary. If, when punishment is inflicted, it is done with composure and with solemnity, occasions for punishment will be very infrequent. Let a mother ever be affectionate and mild with her children. Let her sympathize with them in their little sports. Let her gain their confidence by her assiduous efforts to make them happy. And let her feel when they have done wrong, not irritated, but sad; and punish them in sorrow, but not in anger. Fear is a useful and a necessary principle in family government. God makes use of it in governing his creatures. But it is ruinous to the disposition of a child, exclusively to control him by this motive. How unhappy must be that family where the parent always sits with a face deformed with scowls, and where the voice is always uttered in tones of severity and command! ... Every effort should be made to make home the most desirable place; to gather around it associations of delight; and thus to form in the mind of your child an attachment for peaceful and purifying enjoyments."
One of the things that I most learned from this book was how much I need to change ME, before I expect my children to be 'perfectly obedient'. "The parent must strive to be herself just what she wishes her child to be. She must cherish in her own spirit those virtues and those graces which she desires to see as the embellishments of the character of her child. Our children have more right to expect that we shall be model parents than we have to require that they shall be model children. ...I am to teach my child to avoid vanity, and pride, and selfishness, by cultivating within myself, with never tiring assiduity, the spirit of lowliness, of humility, of self-sacrifice. It is thus, more effectually than in any other way, that I am to reach and influence his heart. So I am to curb the impetuous passions of my child, mainly by gaining the victory over myself, and bringing all my own passions under perfect control."
There is so much good in this book!
This book deals with getting your child to obey at the first command. It is heavily religious as it was a tract written in 1833, so it deals with why you want to discipline your child and that why is heavily steeped in Christianity--however I found it to be wonderful religious content because it was deep and not fluff. If you are not a Christian family this probably would not help you because its advice is not necessarily common sense (I'd suggest Rosemond's The Well-Disciplined Child for similar obedience training without the heavy Christian influence) but deals specifically on why you want your child to learn obedience because the child's adulthood is formed generally from the early childhood behavior, the easier it is to teach them about values and religion if they are mindful, how your inability/ability to parent affects you and your child in the afterlife, how overdoing the self-esteem thing (puffing up their vanity) isn't good, etc. I don't think I disagreed with much. The more permissive parenting/modern parenting advice doesn't match this. Spanking is advocated so if you're totally against that you may not like it, but there is other advice that could be applicable without it. I've read some knee-jerk reaction reviews to this that claimed this was abuse but if you read it, this author is not advocating abuse at all in fact he insists that you should not punish unless you have your head about you and shows that parents should be reluctant to spank unless it is necessary.
I started using these disciplinary measures with my 6 year old immediately, and immediately I saw results, she's misbehaving less and is much more loving toward me and the talks we've had have seemed to make her much more in tune with what obedience is so she can be so more often. Her world has become orderly and she can know better what to expect at all times which gives her some power over her actions, and it has also given me a clearer vision of how I want to deal with discipline and why and I'm much calmer during "battles". Not that we're suddenly perfect or anything.
I'd always held that the wildly undisciplined children I see all around me now wouldn't have happened way back when, but a lot of the author's personal observations of unruly children sounded a lot like the ones I've seen nowadays and my "good old days" nostalgia was dashed.
The 2.99 kindle edition I bought had a lot of computer read font errors. Most of the time I could figure out what it says although there were a few errors that were undecipherable. The vocabulary is large and a bit archaic (as in "licentious profligate" being my favorite phrase I must use now ) so sometimes I'd read over it thinking it was a word I didn't know but then realized that one of the letters had been misread by the computer software) For a book I spent money on I'm was a bit disappointed that the seller didn't look through the book and at least change the words that had numbers actually misinterpreted in it!(
I previously purchased this book by a different publisher and really liked it although it was written in 1833 it contained a lot of wisdom on discipline. However, this book had an additional chapter included which was not in the copy I formerly had. I thought that interesting, and before giving it as a gift decided I should take the time to read it. I'm so glad I did as the author suggests shutting a disobedient child in a dark closet as a means of punishment. I quote, "He had never been shut up in the dark as a punishment, because with very young children the consequences of such a measure are sometimes hazardous; but it was known that in this case the child was not afraid; and I desired to know the effect of it, in connection with the religious considerations. The following experiment was tried; the conversation is here precisely as it occured. Mother 'I am sorry you are so naughty. I must put you into a dark closet, where nobody can see you.'" The mother proceeds to shut the child in the closet until he is willing to submit to her authority...he shares that the result of this experiment is successful in acheiving the desired result.
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